Finding someone to carry your child is probably one of the hardest and longest tasks you will ever be faced with. You want to find the right surrogate mother who will nurture your growing fetus and be able to give the nutrients it needs. You want to feel confident that she will never put your baby in any danger by doing drugs, alcohol or anything else that might harm the fetus. The question is where you can find such a person; the task seems impossible. You should not spend tens of thousands of dollars on someone that you won’t feel comfortable with.
Surrogate agencies today have very strict screening processes for their surrogate mothers to adhere to. However, you want to find a woman that you can connect with and trust. The journey will be a long one and you do not want to share it with someone that you are not comfortable with.
Starting out, you want to feel confident that your chosen agency is going to fit your need. You need an agency whose processes and procedures that you can agree with. Do not be hesitant to put them through a very nit picky screening process of your own. Have the agency explains to you about their screening processes for finding surrogate mothers. Ask as many questions as possible before leaving. Remember, they want your business, so they will be willing to take the time to make you comfortable. When you are happy with their screening processes and everything else seems in order, then sit down with your spouse and do a review about each agency you have interviewed. Once you are confident that the both of you have found a good match, you can start looking for an attorney.
It is very important that you find an attorney that specializes in surrogate cases. Do not be hesitant to put the attorneys through the same screening process as you did with the surrogate agency. You want each piece of the puzzle to fall eloquently into place. After all, this is a life changing decision and if you are going to spend the big bucks on this, you want to do it right the first time. A good attorney will be able to explain the legality and costs associated with hiring a surrogate mother. After you have found the right attorney, go back to your chosen agency to kick off the process.
If you already know a woman who is willing to be a surrogate mother, you can choose to bypass the whole agency part. However, you should not skimp on the attorney part. Even if she has been your friend since birth and you know her well, you still need to have a contract drawn up. Everything needs to be legalized for the state you live in. If you do not abide by the laws, you might find yourself in a whole heap of troubles. Things change and so do people. Your friend who is offering to be a surrogate might change her mind later on down the road. If you don’t legalize the transaction and she goes back on her word, you could have lots to lose. You want to protect yourself and be sure that you do things according to the law.